Think you want to get pregnant with twins? Judging from the two most popular posts on this blog, I’m guessing that millions of moms-to-be definitely do. Sure, twins are cute (like when they sleep) but did you know that a twin pregnancy is considered “high risk” regardless of a mom’s age due to a greater possibility of dangerous complications like preeclampsia or preterm labor?
Furthermore, twins can be a huge financial drain, not to mention that they add way more stress to the family. Still wishing for twins? You might want to reconsider once you know all the facts. Here are ten reasons why having twins may not be for you and 10 reasons why having twins is the best!
Be under no illusion, having twins is tough. Yes, it was magical, but it was also exhausting effort. It was truly a dream come true for me, but reality has a cruel way of putting things into perspective. Don’t get me wrong: I love my children to the moon and back. However, raising children has required more strength than I ever imagined I possessed, and the battle is far from over, my readers.
Cons of Having Twins
1.) The average woman pregnant with twins needs to gain approximately 46 pounds!
On the other hand, a woman carrying a singleton only needs to gain 25 pounds on average—nearly half as much! Why so much for a mom with twins? Adequate weight gain during a twin pregnancy has a direct correlation to healthy fetal growth and delivery. In other words, the more you gain the less likely to deliver preterm babies.
But there’s a price to pay for all that weight like backaches, constant breathlessness and swollen feet, indigestion, heartburn plus a lifetime of stretch marks thrown in as a souvenir. So if the thought of having your stomach arrive a half hour before you do or looking like Humpty-Dumpty in heels doesn’t appeal to you, then having twins may not be for you.
2.) You need to eat a lot of protein
A mom carrying twins will need to eat about 3,500 calories a day with 20 percent of that coming from protein. That’s about 176 grams of animal protein! What does that translate to? About seven McDonald’s Big Mac hamburgers…every day.
So if you’re not a meat-lover (or worse, embrace a vegan lifestyle), then having twins may not be for you.
3.) Newborn twins go through approximately 7,300 diapers in the first year alone
So if you don’t like the look, feel (yes, some of that poop will get on you), or smell of poop—or the $1,825 price tag that goes with it—then having twins may not be for you. If you are having twins, we seriously suggest looking into cloth diapers!
4.) Infant formula is expensive
Two mouths to feed? That’s a lot of milk. So if you don’t want to spend $250 a month or $1,500 in the first six months, then having twins may not be for you. (The good news is that breastfeeding is free!)
5.) Small and bald, many newborn twins look a lot alike even if they’re fraternal (non identical)
So if you’re afraid of mixing up your babies in the middle of the night only to discover your mistake years later (oops!), then having twins may not be for you.
6.) A mother of twins hears these expressions frequently:
- “Are they twins?”
- “Did you use fertility drugs?”
- “Do you have a favorite?”
- Who is eldest?
So if you’re shy, loathe public attention, think celebrities are a bunch of narcissistic asses or can’t stand the thought of strangers touching your babies, then having twins may not be for you.
Some people will refer to them as “the twins” for the rest of their lives rather than as individuals with unique personalities. The phrases “You must have a lot on your hands!” and “Twins must be so easy!” will be heard on a consistent basis. The Katniss-three-finger salute is something you’ll want to give to any mother or father you meet out and about with twins. More than once, they will be asked what it’s like to be a twin, and their answers will be varied. They might not even respond because it’s analogous to being asked what it’s like to have two limbs or both eyebrows, in which case they might not respond at all.
7.) Twins require stuff, and lots of it!
Two cribs. Two vibrating bouncy seats. Two high chairs. Two car seats. A double boppy pillow. A 35-pound double stroller. And don’t forget the super gate! And that’s just the first two years!
All that stuff can take over your entire house transforming it overnight to something right out of Hoarders. So if you don’t like clutter, mess or disorganization of any sort, then having twins may not be for you.
8.) Twins may be small when they’re born but they quickly gain weight
And just like any other baby, they crave to be hugged, nuzzled and carried. Unfortunately, they’re not very good at waiting for their solo turn. So if you have back problems and can’t possibly pick up two babies at once or prefer not to develop arm muscles that make you look like a Super Hero, then having twins may not be for you.
9.) Twins love to get into mischief together.
The saying, “Two heads are better than one,” definitely applies to twins. They quickly figure out how to work together to unlock front doors, climb like monkeys to reach every high place in your home just to see what’s up there, and ruin every nice thing you own just because they can.
So if you don’t like coming home to find that your living room has been turned into a winter wonderland with a fresh dusting of cake flour, then having twins may not be for you.
10.) Twins love to love.
So if double hugs, double wet kisses, and double, “I love you Mommy,” all sounds like fingernails on a chalkboard to you, then having twins is definitely not for you!
Two Heads Is Better Than One: Pros of Having Twins
It’s hard to imagine a more adorable picture than two babies wrapped up in their favorite blanket, sleeping peacefully. But the question is: are these little bundles of joy worth all the extra work?
There was only one pregnancy.
Well yep, double the joy for… I would say half the effort but anyone who has had a twin pregnancy will tell you its hard!
There will be only one delivery.
It is more likely to be a c section but all the drama and fuss is over with, once.
Family is formed in an instant.
You get an instant family, complete with siblings in one shot! It doesn’t matter how long you have waited, when the moment comes and twins are born – family is created.
If you’re a parent of twins, you know that having two children means doubling your work. But it also doubles your joys and experiences. One way to make life with twins a little bit easier is by sharing a wardrobe. This can save both time and money.
Of course, there are a few things to keep in mind when sharing a wardrobe between twins. Make sure that the clothes fit both of your children comfortably and that there is enough variety to accommodate their different personalities. You’ll also want to make sure that each child has his or her own special items, like hats and jackets, that they can call their own.
There’s a built-in playmate
One of the benefits of having twins is that they can provide company for each other. This means that one twin will never feel lonely because there’s always another one around. Not only do they have someone to play with, but they also have someone who understands what it feels like to be them because they are feeling those emotions too!
One birthday celebration
When twins are younger it can be a great benefit to just have one big birthday bash. However, when they get older, they may have their own circle of friends and want to do their own things for their birthday. If this is there wish, its important to respect it and allow them to be individuals and not just one half of a twin.
They pick up on the concept of sharing quite quickly
Twins also tend to be more empathetic than other children. Because they are used to being around someone who is exactly like them, they can better understand others’ feelings. This makes for great friends and partners later in life. Twins often have a strong sense of identity and are very close with each other.